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Emerging Entrepreneur eZine
Volume 2
by Phil Laut
Your Guide to Business success, satisfaction,
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Welcome to the Emerging Entrepreneur eZine
by Phil Laut
Volume 2
Become Wealthy!--You'll Get Used To It
From now on, you can expect to receive weekly tips,
ideas and Training all designed to take you to the
income you want from work you love.
Since the 1970s, I have been teaching people from
all walks of life and ethnic backgrounds to earn
the income they want from work they love. |
Your Parents Raised You to be an Employee
by Phil Laut |
The title may be
shocking to some readers. I'm not picking on you nor on your parents.
It is important for you to understand the effect of the conditioning you
have received about money in order to change it.
There is no need to take this personally-MY parents raised me to be an employee also.
I have conducted a successful business of my own for more than three decades by
getting free of the conditioning that caused me to expect to be an employee.
What about you?
Were these prevalent and enforced rules in your house as a child?
1. Sit down and be quiet.
2. Children should be seen and not heard.
3. Don't brag or say good things about yourself.
4. Do as you are told.
5. Don't do anything without permission.
6. Take what you are given and don't ask for more.
7. Don't take money from friends.
8. Don't take money from strangers.
9. Don't rock the boat.
10. Can't have your cake and eat it too.
This is not to say that ALL the rules your parents taught you had negative effects.
My parents (and probably yours as well) taught us to look both ways
before crossing the street-likely a rule that saved us more than once.
Many of these are excellent rules for a five-year-old. If you are 25, 35, 45 or
older and still obeying them, these rules will hinder your financial success.
Let's take a look in detail how the 10 rules listed here may be acting to
keep you dependent on a job -or, if you have already started your own business,
how unintentional adherence to these rules may impede your path to the business
success you are looking for.
Read over the symptoms in the right hand column to find out whether you may
be still following any of the rules from childhood.
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1. Sit down and be quiet.
2. Children should be seen and not heard.
3. Don't brag or say good things about yourself. |
You feel uncomfortable about public speaking, job search or selling anything if you follow rules #1, #2,or #3.
Job search and selling have a great deal in common. Job search is far more difficult. The product and the salesperson are identical. It is the ultimate in selling yourself with your survival at stake. The job candidate is an unemployed salesperson, selling his skills in a very competitive environment. Job search is intensely emotional and much more difficult if you have never learned to sell. In many surveys, public speaking is named as the most significant fear--clearly an irrational fear, obviously the result of these childhood rules. After all, the casualty rate among public speakers is really quite low, so there is nothing to be afraid of.
Remember that the fear you experience when learning to sell has nothing to do with your prospective customer or the current situation. Instead, it is actually about breaking family rules. |
4. Do as you are told.
5. Don't do anything without permission. |
You have a job if you follow rules #4 and #5.
Anyone in his own business soon discovers there is no one to provide instructions and no one whose permission is required. Success in your own business requires the willingness and ability to operate on one's own authority. |
6. Take what you are given and don't ask for more.
7. Don't take money from friends.
8. Don't take money from strangers. |
You accept the salary you are given and feel very uncomfortable discussing a raise if you follow rule #6.
Asking for what you want is always a bit uncomfortable, because you run the risk of rejection. Following this rule makes negotiation out of the question, meaning you can never receive anything better than the first offer anyone makes.
You have a less than satisfying relationship with your boss if you follow rules #7 and #8.
If it is not OK to take money from friends or from strangers, whom does that leave? Known enemies! This may seem a mere play on words until you consider the sometimes suppressed animosity between employers and workers that seems to be expressed only from time to time in labor strife. Job satisfaction is impossible if you view your employer as an adversary.
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| 9. Don't rock the boat. |
You perform at less than your best or sabotage your success if you follow rule #9.
Excellence ALWAYS rocks the boat.
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| 10. Can't have your cake and eat it too. |
Success does not seem to be worth the price if you follow rule #10.
There is a tendency to create endless obstacles and struggle to prove this
rule to be correct. You will create losses that you attribute to your progress
and that make you wonder whether it is worth it. |
It is not a good idea to rebel against all the rules our parents gave us,
although we know a few people who try. Surely your parents taught you some wise rules,
such as the example about crossing the street mentioned before.
What happens when you break these rules?
These rules are more than intellectual furniture.
Intellectual furniture, means knowledge with little or no emotional impact.
C² = A² + B² would be an example.
This formula, the Pythagorean theorem for calculating the measurements of a right
triangle, is something most of us learned in the sixth or seventh grade.
Trigonometry is very different from the childhood rules we are discussing here.
The difference is the childhood rules were enforced.
It doesn't matter what methods were used to enforce these rules.
The methods may have been extreme or not, ranging from brutal beatings to being
unfavorably compared to one of your siblings to being sent to bed without supper.
All the methods share an intense, negative emotional component.
In other words, failure to follow the rules made you feel bad.
This is the reason, that, when as adults, we step outside these rules,
the emotional memories of the enforcement flood awareness.
For some, just thinking about breaking the rules does this.
Breaking Free of these rules.
We devote an entire chapter in
Wealth without a Job--Entrepreneur's Guide to Freedom and Security beyond the 9 to 5
Lifestyle by Phil Laut and Andy Fuehl
to aid you in uncovering and changing the residue from childhood
conditioning that may be obstructing your progress.
(Chapter 6--Your Recovery from a Good Upbringing, which contains a variety of
methods for reclaiming your power unintentionally given away to others in the past.)
All of us have a scared little kid inside of us who
was conditioned and socialized (and in some cases abused and neglected).
The choice we have as adults is whether to allow the little kid to make the
decisions that shape our lives. The information in this article is designed
to offer you awareness of those occasions when your internal child is acting up,
fearfully demanding that you follow childhood rules. When this happens, you tell
the little kid that you are the one in charge now and that you will take care of
protecting the scared little kid from those who have harmed or scared him or her
in the past.
What can you learn from this article?
The unconscious psychological conditioning that makes wealth
accumulation tougher than it ought to be and confounds, without explanation,
our efforts to make progress was imparted to us over an extended period of time.
For this reason, relying on get rich quick schemes is foolishness.
The thousands of people I have taught to earn the income they want from satisfying
work got there a little bit at a time. Yes, they experience some big jumps forward
and sometimes even setbacks over a period of months. Nobody I know gets rich quick.
My tongue in cheek, but nevertheless accurate way of describing childhood conditioning
about money is that it was imparted during 20,000 meals with financial advisors who
gave mixed messages about money.
Without the right mindset about money, it is unlikely you'll
accumulate much, nor keep it for very long. You certainly do not become
rich and then start thinking like a rich person. It works the other way round.
The thinking changes first.
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Wealthy people know they must take prudent risks because they play to win.
Poor people avoid all risk because they play to avoid loss and by
doing so expose themselves to far greater risk without knowing it.
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